Last weekend I kissed someone I shouldn't have.
It lasted thirty seconds max, and was an impulsive drunken snog, but it shouldn't have happened. The guy in question has been in a relationship for at least six months. I wasn't even trying to snog him; I had decided in my drunkenness that I was going to kiss one of the other guys out with us (who may or may not also have a girlfriend - so THAT wouldn't have been any better), but somehow I ended up snogging the wrong one. Don't ask me why - I can't even explain it. It was like half two in the morning and the drinks had been flowing for a good few hours and the only thing saving me from an utterly horrendous hangover the next day was the fact that I had actually eaten something for a change.
Anyway, yeah. I'm not too bothered about the kiss. It WAS a good kiss, and I used to have a teeny bit of a thing for the guy in question, but not anymore. So as far as I'm concerned that was that. Just a one-off, blah blah blah.
But it's got me thinking about the rights and the wrongs of it all. Obviously, I'm single so I *technically* wasn't doing anything wrong. But what he did... does that qualify as cheating? For all I know, it could have been all me. I don't THINK it was, but I also know that I've pounced on guys in the past!
That being said, about a year ago, I was feeling a bit shit about myself and made a bit of a pass at a colleague, who stopped me before I could even kiss him because of the fact he had a girlfriend. And okay, I was a bit embarrassed at the time and couldn't really face him for ages... but we were both drunk and I think deep down I was a little relieved that it had been HIM I'd tried to pounce on because he had been a total gent about it, and another guy could have taken advantage of me in the state I was in.
So my point is.... this guy could have did the same thing. And chose not to.
From my side of things though, I don't really count it as him cheating. But would you???
I think I personally would rather not know if I was seeing someone and they'd had a 30 second kiss with someone else. But then who knows? If I was in the situation maybe I would feel differently.
Would YOU want to know if it was your other half?