I was watching episodes of "How I Met Your Mother" last night, and one episode in particular got me thinking. It was an episode about the baggage we all have, and may carry into relationships with us.
I started wondering what MY baggage is.
I have a friend (well, technically she's a friend of a friend, but we all hang out together so I kind of consider her my friend too) who has a tendency to end up with really . . . well, STRANGE guys. Like there was the one who had an electronic tag, a criminal past AND present (hence the electronic tag), belonged to a gang, stole a car (not just off the street, out of a fricking CAR SHOWROOM) and she was telling us about this stuff like it was a good thing. "Oh and he likes to treat me rough," she added, just to make it worse. It was okay, she kinda liked it apparently. Each to their own, I suppose. "You don't get to be our age and meet guys without baggage" she said.
Is she right? Is it possible to reach 30 and NOT have baggage?
I don't think I have anything in the way of potential baggage that manifests itself physically. I don't have kids, a jealous ex in my life, a criminal past, nothing really tying me down. But I DO have a lot of insecurities and trust issues from previous relationships. Is that baggage? Relationships stress me out because of this, so I guess that this IS my baggage.
Or perhaps my selfishness could be considered baggage. I like my life the way it is; I don't want it to change for anyone. I find it hard to let someone in to share my life in the first place. I guess that can make me hard work.
I don't really have a CLUE how to be in a grown-up relationship. I'm not always sure I even WANT to be.
But do you know something? I hope someone can look past my baggage some day and take it on. Cos there's a lot of good stuff to go along with it. :)
Do you believe everyone has baggage of some sort? What's yours?