***You get a guy's perspective on things, which is always useful. And tends to be completely different from a girl's perspective. It's kind of like getting a teensy bit of an insight into a guy's mind.
There are a lot of things that seriously fuck me off (as you already know!) but one thing that really gets my goat (apart from that saying, naturally!) is when people add two and two, come up with some completely insane number like 1523 and then run with it. So idle gossip spreads and people find themselves getting talked about for the wrong reasons; reasons, I may add, that aren't even true.
The main thing that seems to happen in my experience is when two people are gossiped about purely for being friends. Of course, this tends to be more to do with the genders involved. Same sex friendships seem to be okay. But if a girl and boy are involved . . . all reasoning apparently goes out of the window.
So let's break it down a little here:
Why being friends with a guy is GOOD:
***There's no competitiveness and bitchiness with one another. Like it or not, this has a tendency to happen within the confines of a girl friendship (and I guess the same is true in a different way of guy friendships).
Why being friends with a guy is BAD:
***People take it the wrong way. It seems that its not actually permitted for a girl and a guy to be friends with one another. Woe betide they go for a quick drink together or hang out with one another. Suddenly they HAVE to be together. Why is it so impossible to believe that platonic friendship can exist between the two genders?
Now, I will admit I personally do NOT have the best track record with being friends with guys - there have been a COUPLE of them that have slipped over the line that separates "just friends" from "something more". But I've learned my lesson the hard way and, on top of that, I have about five times as many male friends that I haven't been involved with to prove that it is entirely possible for a male and female to be just friends.
I think it was Billy Crystal who said in "When Harry Met Sally" that there's no such a thing as a platonic friend, that sex always gets involved, or that someone of the two always likes the other one. (Oh yeah, here it is!) Well, if that's really true and I'm not doing any lusting, then I guess all my male friends must be lusting after me. Yeah right!
Believe me, I sometimes wish I was one of those people who subscribed to the "the best way to get over a man is to get under another" club but I'm not - I'm not going to go after another guy when I'm still more than a little hung up on someone else, however much I fight against it and regardless of the fact he has made it patently clear he has no interest in me anymore. However, even if I wasn't a fully paid up member of the "sad and pathetic" mindset, I'm not going to go after someone who is a good friend as some sort of rebound fling.
Sometimes I'm not sure if it's a general theory that men and woman can't be friends, or whether certain people just apply to me! Either way, I personally don't think it's true!
Feel free to throw in your five cents - sorry, in my case it should be five pence!
And as for the fact it's Tuesday and I'm therefore meant to try and cheer myself - I mean, everyone else, of course! - up, try this article, which I found pretty funny (yeah, I know it's not as good as watching a clip on youtube but I like to encourage reading - apart from my blog, obviously!) sometimes too . . .