When I went on Facebook the other day, I was confronted with a friend request.
This was from a person I'd de-friended about six months ago on the same very site.
In fact, I'd de-friended him on Bebo too. He was someone I worked with years ago, a bit creepy to say the least, and every time I was on Bebo at the same time as him (it always comes up saying when you're online on that), I would get a private message. EVERY TIME. Despite the fact I would never reply. Eventually I removed him.
On Facebook, before I worked out how to appear online, he kept trying to chat to me. Eventually I de-friended him on that too. If you don't actually want to even TALK to someone, even from behind the safety of a computer screen, then that says something pretty important about whether you should be their friend even in the VIRTUAL world.
So a couple of months back I was at a friend's civil partnership ceremony and this dude appeared. "Dammit," I whispered to my sister. "I removed that guy as a friend online." He caught my eye, I awkwardly nodded at him, wondering if he'd noticed the fact I'd disappeared off his friend list. From the fact he didn't try to chat (thank God!) I assumed he had.
Until I saw this friend request.
Why didn't I block him when I had the chance? Now if I block him, he'll probably notice that I've completely vanished off the face of facebook. Does it matter on the grand scheme of things? Nah. Do I particularly care what he thinks? Certainly not. I'm just worried I may run into him again and have that scary awkwardness of not knowing if he knows that I blocked him/removed him/refused his request of Facebook friendship/insert any other possible option here.
For the moment, I'll just leave the friend request sitting there . . . waiting patiently for an answer.
For as long as it takes.